How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen

How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen

A Survival Guide to Life With Children Ages 2-7

Book - 2017
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For over thirty-five years, parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children. Now, in response to growing demand, Adele's daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, tailor How to Talk's powerful communication skills to children ages two to seven. Faber and King, each a parenting expert in her own right, share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents and a broad variety of professionals. With a lively combination of storytelling, cartoons, and fly-on-the-wall discussions from their workshops, they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the young kids in your life. What do you do with a little kid who... won't brush her teeth... screams in his car seat... pinches the baby... refuses to eat vegetables... throws books in the library... runs rampant in the supermarket? Organized according to common challenges and conflicts, this book is an essential emergency first-aid manual of communication strategies, including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders. This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers of young children to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers.
Publisher: New York :, Scribner,, 2017
Edition: First Scribner edition
ISBN: 9781501131653
Characteristics: xxi, 409 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm
Additional Contributors: King, Julie - Author


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A sequel to the bestselling parenting book aimed at older kids, this book is loaded with practical suggestions and examples for helping manage the often tumultuous early years.

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debwalker Nov 22, 2019

Great Washington Post article and interview with Julie King: Tell kids the truth: being left out hurts. Great advice on helping kids through tough life experiences and coming out stronger better humans. And how books about belonging can help.

ArapahoeLoriN Oct 31, 2018

Kids can’t behave right when they don’t feel right. It is important for us to acknowledge and accept our little one's feelings. We can help our kids name their feelings, and give them the necessary vocabulary to do it. When we say "But..." we essentially tell children their feelings are wrong. If we use "The problem is..." it suggests there is a problem to solve, and doesn't wipe out the feelings. I especially love how the authors focus on using "I" messages, rather than "You" which feels accusatory. There are some good tools for caregivers, and real life scenarios included in the book.

Apr 05, 2018

As a parent to 3 children, (a 3 year old and twin almost 1 year olds), I've really been doing my best to add to my toolbelt. With that in mind, I'm so glad that I've found Joanna Faber and Julie King, and their excellently crafted book "How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen."

The book covers a lot of basics that I feel like other parenting books overlook. Such as addressing your child's feelings and desires first. This sounds strange and counter productive at first. It certainly took me off guard. But once I started to think about it, it made perfect sense. How do I react when someone tells me what to do when I'm feeling grumpy, hungry, or tired? Not great. Addressing how your child is feeling doesn't necessarily mean bending over backward to give them what they want. It means affirming them and letting them know that you're hearing them. Don't you feel better when you know someone is actually listening to you?

Another thing that I LOVED about this book was the real life stories. Peppered throughout the entire book are hands on perspectives provided by real life parents. They tryout exactly what the book prescribes as you're reading along with the authors. Many of the stories are provided by the authors themselves, about their own children.

Finally, the suggestions here are not ground breaking as far as bran new thoughts are concerned. But they are practice, do-able, and understandable. It basically treating your children how you'd want to be treated. It's the golden rule, envisioned so that your littles will actually hear and see it.

This will be a book that I will read over a few more times I think. I truly feel like it could shape the way I parent. For the better I might add!

Jan 12, 2018

This was, hands down, the best, most useful parenting book I have ever read. It was honest, empowering, and never did I feel the “Mom guilt” that often comes with other parenting books. I couldn’t stop talking about with my husband, and the tips and ideas are SO EASY to start putting into practice right away.

This may become my go-to gift for first time parents; it is on my own list of “books I checked out from the library but absolutely must now own” (which is a short list!).

Dec 05, 2017

Well written and entertaining - always a bonus in any book giving advice. The main theme, repeated regularly, was the need to acknowledge the child's feelings before you'd be able to make any progress communicating with them. Likely true, but difficult to do when a toddler is driving you up the wall. Still, I appreciated the authors' acknowledgement of that difficulty and their judgement-free attitude ("there's always a chance to try again"). I enjoyed all the stories from different parents in their parenting groups.

May 26, 2017

Such a practical resource for parents and those of us who interact with the 2-7 set on a regular basis. There are lots of tools that can be used in most any situation and in different sequences. The book is very well-organized and filled with real-life examples where the tools are used successfully.

Even better is the acknowledgement that every parent has moments of yelling, but those can be fixed. It is encouraging to read about other parents and their meltdown moments as I think back on my own. Maintaining those parent-child relationships is key and this book helps to accomplish that so that our kids grow to be empathetic, responsible adults.

Feb 16, 2017

well, I ended up buying this book, it is something good to have around when you have children


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